Friday, October 5, 2012

Grateful Friday

Today I give thanks for...

Our first official cross country family road trip.  I'm grateful for all of the memories we will share always.  It was good.  Good times.  Good memories.  All Good.

  Itineraries, cruise directors (Coach) and mostly favorable weather conditions. We were on the road only an hour later than planned.  It was still dark out, but the skies were bright with brilliant bolts of lightning.  As we drove south, it started to pour.  The Loop was shrouded in fog and looked surreal, like the setting of a sci fi movie.  The rain stopped in Illinois, and then somewhere in Indiana the sun started to peak through the picturesque cloud cover. 


The seamless journey.  T. Bone and Miss Bit strapped themselves in, turned on their overhead lights and started to tackle a week's worth of homework despite the fact that it was only 6 o'clock a.m. on a Saturday.  They took frequent breaks to eat good food like McD's (breakfast and lunch for one of us), to take part in roadside scavenger hunts every one of which Coach won, to sing along to The Beatles (his request) or Jack Johnson (her choice), and to watch movies like Twister while we drove through the stormy heartland.  Don't worry we shelved Jaws and waited to watch A Perfect Storm until we drove home.  There was no fighting.  There were lots of games and also plenty of discussion.  I loved the road trip.  I enjoyed the experience far more then flying.  Of course, I only did a fraction of the driving although I did volunteer repeatedly.  The cost was only marginally different with the price of gas and my desire to stay in reputable, bed bug free hotels along the way, but we saw so much and learned more.   

Seeing part of the great US of A.  Eventually the flat, muted farmland of Indiana gave way to the lush green rolling hills of Kentucky.
We started passing white picketed horse farms instead of wind farms...it was a welcome change.
We managed to arrive at Mammoth Cave (not too far from Louisville) an hour before our scheduled tour.  That was 550 miles in less than 8 hours with numerous quick stops.  We all enjoyed learning about the 392 miles of mapped cave as we traveled by foot along a mere 2+ miles of it.  At one point, the ranger turned out the lights and we now have a new understanding of pitch black .  It's so dark in the hallows of the cave that the animals who reside there have evolved without eyes or pigment. These tidbits of information proved there is much to learn outside of the traditional school room and made us feel a little less guilty about taking the kids out of school for the trip.  I value education tremendously, but I think real life experiences trump book learning every time.
 

We explored narrow labyrinths by twisting and turning, ducking and diving.


We marveled at the centuries old stalagmites and stalactites ever careful not to touch them knowing that would halt their amazing formation.


Devices. After spending the night in Nashville, we were on the road Sunday morning eager to get to Florida's gulf coast.  Coach turned on the van, which I now lovingly know to be a true family room on wheels, and the first song on the radio was Only The Good Die Young.  That Billy Joel tune reminded me of my Mom even before she died young and they're good memories, so it was a happy sign.  While the rest of my family plugged in the dvd, I pad or I touch, I relived my youth thanks to the good, old air waves.  I sang along to Lover Boy, Prince, Madonna, Foreigner and Jackson Brown.  Going back in time proved to be a great time passer.
 



 
Religion (wherever you find it.)  We also learned about the Bible belt as we drove through southern Tennessee.  Roadside signs preaching salvation were everywhere.  Hell is Hot, Heaven is not Here, Well, You Did Ask For a Sign, God Answers Knee Mail, Life is Short...Eternity Isn't, Let's Meet at My House Sunday Before the Game and Stop, Drop and Roll Does Not Work in Hell were among my favorites.
Alabama left us feeling like we were really in the deep south.  Most everything was rundown and for sale.  Instead of rampant signs of salvation, the roadside was dotted with for sale signs and campaign signs.  The state looked so depressed, and I left with the feeling that these people have had enough of this stagnant economy.  There were lots of trailers, flea markets and boiled peanuts for sale.

Trying new things.  T. Bone and I had our first ever Sonic experience and we were not fast fans.  Coach and Miss Bit settled on tacos, and for her it was like the second coming.  The first is chicken nuggets from pretty much anywhere, which by the way she ate for pretty much every meal out while on vacation except for breakfast.  She's going to publish a guide to nugget eating so stay tuned if you are headed that way.  That Bit is a cheap date and she's easy to please.

Grandparent greeters.  We arrived in Panama City Beach coincidentally just as Grandpa was crossing the parking lot so he helped us unload and steered one of the carts to our home on the 19th floor.
Grandma welcomed us onto the balcony where the very first thing we noticed  was the breathtaking view of the sun setting.  We are all grateful that they invited us to enjoy their condo with them.



Miss Bit changed into her suit straight away and kept one eye on the ocean while we unpacked reminding anyone who would listen, "I've been very patient!"


The beach was clearing for the day, but that didn't stop us from heading down to swim in the gloaming and toast being together in such a beautiful place after a safe, long drive.


Beauty to behold all around us.  We were up bright and early our first morning: before 7:00, but after sunrise, and all the mornings to follow.  Miss Bit was on ocean patrol straight away.  She spotted two dolphins just off the shore playing in the surf.  That was cause for excitement all around, but by the end of our stay it was no longer novel simply because we were lucky to see so many dolphins every day.


Coach and I headed out for an early morning walk on the beach.  These daily walks to one pier or another were the highlight of my vacation.  I felt energized waking up to the sounds and sights of the sea.  And early, there are other walkers, but mostly dolphin, rays, sandpipers, gulls, pelicans, egrets and crabs.  All of these creatures delight Miss Bit.  She loves to catch them if she can or even just observe them from a afar.  She is completely in her element, and we all whisper of what might become of this intersection of animal love and ocean envy in her future.  This was especially true after she saved the baby swordfish a seagull deposited on the pool deck.  She hopped out of the pool in a flash, picked up the little fish lickety split and ran willy nilly to the gulf to set him free.  She's still talking about it. It was also true after she begged to crab every night after dark.  Truth be told, they creep me out, but she picked them up, let them crawl all over her, talked to them ever so sweetly and then kissed them goodbye.  I sometimes wonder whether we are really related.  T. Bone had a lot of fun tossing the football or riding the boogie board on the wavier days, but he had to keep moving and tired of the sea and sun long before his fish of a sister.  He's my mountain lover especially with his snowboard beneath his feet. 


New adventures.  The kids both agreed that para sailing was big high fun.  Once on land, T. Bone tried to subdue his smile as he offerred a single word, "Awesome!!"  Miss Bit asked with complete seriousness, "When can I do that again?"  They went in tandem and had quite the ride: 10 minutes and 3 dips long.  The bonus was a ride to and fro on the banana boat.  Coach and I were patting ourselves on the back for money well spent.  We were pleased that she took a risk we weren't sure she'd feel ready for and also that it was enough of a thrill to give him an adrenalin rush.  On the last day, we realized that the five foot fish swimming back and forth about five feet from T. Bone was a shark.  T. Bone wasn't about to interrupt his football game for any fish shark or not.  Swimming with sharks wasn't on our vacation agenda.  I was just glad we were about to head to the pool and then head home.


Peace, love and understanding. I was happy that the kids got along so well and proud of the many compliments we received on their behavior.  It didn't much matter that we forgot to bring any games.  They made up their own like racing in the halls from floor to floor, or they joined in for junk food bingo at the pool. Mid-stay they traded bunks without complaint.  She crawled in the top and he snuggled in the bottom.

Everything.  So the days all held the same wonderful components: walks on the beach, swims in the ocean and then the pool, dips in the hot tub, family time, playing, shelling, crabbing and catching geckos, dinners out with the beach as a back drop, fresh mahi mahi, tuna, shrimp, crab, and grouper (or burgers and chicken nuggets for the kids), happy hour toasting the sunset on the beach, patio or the deck of a boat, early to bed, early to rise.  It was good.

Travel.  Truthfully, what I'm most grateful for is sharing this experience with my children.  Time together to travel and see the world is so precious.  It's worth the premium.  It reminds me of why we work hard and justifies sacrifices.  Seeing something new through the eyes of those most precious to me, brings me satisfaction and joy beyond measure. 


Pictures.  I take lots of pictures, but I don't consider myself a photographer.  Some of my favorites probably perplex other people, but if I get one good photo a day, I consider my time spent a success.  I'm thankful for all of these...

I took many pictures of gulls just hoping to get one like this.

I haven't been in Ron Jon's since I was T. Bone's age.  No we did not buy these "ja man" get-ups, but we should have.

Wearable geckos.


"hermies"

No macho ride on the banana boat.


T. Bone wearing Coach's glasses and Miss Bit in mine.

One big ray combing the shore.  There were many.

1.5 miles to Pier 54.

Margaritas mid-day

Sandpiper sandpiper running in the sand.

A hat call...

To the beach.

Another beautiful day.

I cannot tire of this view.


A lone pelican mid flight...prehistoric and regal at once.

Hang loose!

Crane on Shell Island.

Sibs sharing a seat.

T. Bone is first to catch a gecko and takes first in the conch blowing contest too.

Miss Bit sporting her aqua, purple and neon green hair wrap.  Grandma's is the Irish flag and mine is predictably pink.

Shade from the sun.

Going home.  The length of our trip was perfect.  We didn't overstay our welcome or give T. Bone ample opportunity to be bored.  We were a little less eager and excited on the way home.  That's just the name of the game.  


We left on my Mom's heaven day, which proved to be a blessing for me.  Cross country driving is like meditating.  I did much communing and cleansing.  The cathartic end of the day was at a little family owned pizza joint where we honored our family Friday pizza night tradition as well as Nanny by ordering a pie with extra cheese.  We toasted my Mom with Miller Lites and root beers, and it somehow felt just right.  Just right means that I could feel her smiling down on us.

We made record time from Nashville to Illinois (yes I was finally driving), and then we sat in traffic for an hour in Chicago.  @#!!

 last stop for burgers and shakes somewhere in Indiana and still smiling. 

We made it home at 6:30 and were seated in front of our neighbor's t.v. to cheer on the Badgers by 7:00 game time.  

Team Wags was savoring a winning vacation...sadly our Badgers lost.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

I'm Here











I have been on a blog break.  I expected my postings to be sporadic and heavily picture laden while we were on vacation, but then the condo we were staying in did not have the wifi promised and, frankly, I felt the pull to the beautiful beach in lieu of the www.  Nonetheless, I came back itching to write, geared up to share stories and jonesing to post memories captured, but was soon reminded that our Internet went kaput the day before we left.  Our connection was restored last night.  I'm thankful to be back on the grid.  I'm also grateful for the time I had to be away.  I learned some quality things in quieting my inner historian, or rather I relearned them.  Sometimes the strong urge to tell my story turns the very event that inspired me into the past before its time.  I catch myself crafting the moments before they have played out.  It makes me wonder how much my expectations and excitement mold and manipulate my tellings.  I know there are times I get ahead of myself.  It makes me think of the book I cannot wait to finish.  Do I scan chapters or skip pages?  No,  I hang on every single word.  I stop to smile or cry or dog ear a page.  I return and reread a poignant passage.  I savor every single thought and later I jot down those aha quotes.  I give the story grace.  I let it emerge and unfold on its own. I need to remember to give them all..moments, stories...their due.  After all, it is in the stillness at the end of the day, that other unexpected stories shine through.  With quiet reflection, different voices beg to be heard.  When I sit back and soak it all in, I see layers upon layers of perspective and many possible points of view.  It became clear that I can never be all too sure what treasures I will find.

I spent time walking the soft sandy beaches where the water meets the shore everyday until they started to feel like familiar old friends.  Yet each and every day I saw something new.  One morning it was a pod of dolphins at play, and another it was a pair of blue crabs scurrying across the sand. And the shells... amazingly I never saw two exactly alike. The same shining sun was swallowed by the sea every evening, but each sunset was blessed with its own set of captivating characteristics. 

This week I felt awed by simply being present.  I was affirmed by bearing witness.  I took hundreds of pictures with three different cameras, I read half a book (one and a half less than expected), I journaled in a fluid stream of conscious style less than a page each day, I slept only as much as necessary, and rose early every morning to greet each day.  I didn't want to miss a single fleeting moment.  I was acutely aware how transient is time.  Every day is evanescent the world seemed to say on the wind, a wing or on a wave.

And it's so true.  Vacation is over.  Seven days and six states later, we are home sweet home.  It is already October 4th, and I already want to hit pause so compelling is my adoration for this tenth month.  Now I'm wowed by the brilliant leaves in beautiful colors of ochre, persimmon and citrine instead of the cerulean, violet and claret gradations of the sea.  Now I'm smelling cloves and ginger instead of salty sea spray.  Soon it will be pine and peppermint.  So it goes as it must, but not without notice.

Monday, September 24, 2012

On My Mind Monday


Nature always wears the colors of the spirit. 
Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Friday, September 21, 2012

Grateful Friday

Today I give thanks for...

Today is my Mom's birthday.  She would be 64.  The day is going better than I was bracing for.  Isn't that always the case.  When you're ready for the world to feel heavy, suddenly there is relief.  I'm trying to laugh when I realize things aren't going the way I planned.  And I'm doing so without much effort.  This morning I woke early to put the banana bread in the oven since my kiddos like it piping hot and fresh.  I ended up turning the lower oven on and then placing the bread in the upper oven before sneaking back up to bed.   I was expecting to be roused by the smell of sweet goodness.  When that didn't happen, I figured banana bread can be today's after school snack.

Coach left me such a sweet card this morning.  Brought tears to my eyes.  Good tears.

I am attending mass with many friends who happen to be co-workers at lunch today.  Our friend (mine and my Mom's) remembers to remember her this way this day each year.  It makes me smile through my tears and have joy in my sorrow.

Not one, but two hummingbirds this week.

Compliments on my well-mannered girl.  Both of our waitresses praised her behavior last Saturday at dinner.  She was the only child in the company of adults, but she immensely enjoyed herself and almost willingly shared some of her mozarella marinara with the rest of the table.

T. Bone is working hard and getting all As.  He is bruised from head to toe thanks to football, but he loves it.  He loves it so much that he is not at all happy to miss two games while we are on vacation.

A heart to heart with my dad this weekend.  It's one of the nicest chats we've had in a long time.  He turned 65 this week.  Happy Birthday dad!  We're looking forward to a Door County celebration in November.

Door County in November.  It's all but desserted and that's the way I like it most best.

Today is cloudy.  It's starting to rain.  I need that today.

Sun spots.


She's only 8!  Even though she sometimes dreams of being more grown-up,  I think she knows and loves the fact that she will always be my little girl.  And she will never drive...just sayin'.


Leftover pizza.  Now that is a serious slice.


Eggplant Parmesan. I had to do something with the two beautiful purple fruits that ended up in my basket at the farm stand last weekend. I'll never understand what compelled me to stock up on so much fresh produce right before vacation.


Tomorrow is the first day of fall.  It is my favorite season.  October is my best month.  If I could have a year of Octobers I'd be forever grateful.  Since I only get 31 days, I'll be sure to make the most of them...each and every.

A new cardy.  I'm wearing it today.  I got it for $11.62 on clearance at Target.  This cardy queen loves a new sweater.  I also scored 2 pairs of my favorite yoga pants for $15.42 each!!!  I felt like I won the lottery since I need petites and they never have shorts and they are never on sale.

This morning I noticed that our maple tree is turning orange.  Miss Bit was abuzz about the changing colors up and down along the river.  I love when she not only sees what I see, but also gets excited by it.