Grateful Friday

Today I give thanks for...

A good week of getting back into a new "normal." Lily started her job. She's still adapting to the early mornings, but she's having fun with the girls and full of funny stories at the end of each day. Teddy was busy hitting the books by day and the greens by night. In between, he set up a Rover account to make some walking around money this summer. 

Kids with such strong work ethics.

Once the sun went down and the air cooled, we cozied in the family room for movie nights a couple times this week.

Before Mike left for NY, we had a homemade pizza/game night. Hues and Cues was a fun new to us game. These are the kind of nights I miss the most when the kids are gone so we are going to have lots of them this summer.

Mike comes home tonight.

Gus is our mini mouser. Ted and I had quite a chuckle trying to get him to drop the poor little guy he befriended so we could set him free.

A new summer dress that will be perfect for the hot and humid days to come.

The Supreme Court.

Cooking for the kids. I've been seriously lacking in kitchen inspiration, but now that they are home, it is back.

Catching up with my uncle. 

Taking care of business. Slowly ticking things off my lists.

All the rain is so good for my flowers.

Spring Inventory

I have not been reading. That is unless Vanity Fair counts. I'm still trying to finish the books I took on my last two trips. I'm halfway through both and the Leaning Tower of Pisa stack on my bedside table has been reshelved. I think it was causing me major anxiety.

 

 I know the problem is I've been watching too much. I have become not my parents, but my grandparents. I watch several hours of news every night and then have to switch to something light lest I lay awake into the wee hours worrying. I think it's telling that Dark and Evil are more soothing than the nightly news. Sunday night we look forward to AFHV. We is Mike, Hazel and I. She loves Dog Park. Top Chef is in Wisconsin this season and it's been fun to see our state in such a positive national spotlight.

If music is on these days it's likely country, or if I'm alone Taylor Swift. Otherwise, I'm listening to birdsong, my new wind chimes and the neighborhood sounds of lawnmowers whirring and children laughing. A family with six kids moved behind us and they're loving their new yard. Ted and Meryl arrived home from their latest European adventure Friday night and we stayed up late listening to stories from the Amalfi Coast and the streets of London. They made pasta and fresh mozzarella and drank the local wine. They hiked along the coast above the Tyrrhenian Sea, and then they saw two shows in London. That's my kinda vacay.

 

 

I'm enjoying working in the yard. It's so satisfying to plant things and watch them grow. I am learning that less is more as I have a lot of thinning out to do. I was disappointed because it's looking so pretty and I wanted to entertain outdoors this weekend, but Mother Nature had other plans. And knowing that we have the whole summer ahead of us to entertain in the aire libre.

I am also enjoying spending time with Lily. She's enjoying a couple weeks of downtime after slaying her semester...again! She's Iron-man training and bonding with Gus. 

I'm loving an afternoon of theatre with my step-mom. We saw and LOVED Moulin Rouge last weekend. I'm also loving fresh lilacs from my neighbor's yard, my little patio herb garden, competitive family NYT puzzling with our morning coffees, when Lily cooks the most amazing Margherita paninis for dinner, tomatoes that taste like the sun, Aeperol Spritz Margaritas and Lemonade Mimosas, finally a pedicure and the prettiest pink toes, Dreamsicle ice cream, red lipstick, the orioles in my yard, my dad's Choriqueso and guac, my Synoshi. Family dinners after which we linger long around the dining room table. The way Hazel and Gus have finally bonded and how they make our house a home. This life.

 

 

It will be a summer of cooking and eating with the kids home and the price of going out prohibitive on a regular basis. Fresh. Yesterday's watermelon was perfect and the grapes have been so sweet and crisp. Lots of chicken now that Lil's, our pollotarian, is home, and more square meals. Cheese and crackers cannot be dinner with two Iron-people in the house. I discovered I sort of love arugula now. I've been making any number of very thin crust pizzas and topping them with an arugula salad. Custard because, well, summer. Quick breads because, well, I won't throw out a single berry. The below Blueberry Almond loaf is a family fave.

I'm thinking about what kind of summer we'll have. The violence has already ticked up. With the Republican National Convention coming this summer and the election this fall, I expect there to be more volatility. All the negative energy and emotion is not productive.

I'm wanting peace. Here, there, everywhere. Just enough. Not too much, unless we're talking joy, love, wisdom, generosity, kindness.

Grateful Friday

Today I give thanks for...

Ted called very early this morning to show me the view of the Amalfi Coast. I didn't mind...it was that stunning. Today they're taking a cooking course.  Pasta, fresh Mozz and Tiramisu are on the menu. I think he's on my vacation.

My guy coming with me to my favorite nursery where I get my beloved streptocarpella plants. I was going to cut back on my annuals this year because it just seems to be a wise choice. Just like everything else, flowers have sky rocketed. But then I saw some window boxes last week and somehow they ended up in my cart. I couldn't stop thinking about them. Yeah, so two carts worth of flowers and now I need to get planting so I can enjoy my yard this summer. I plan to stay put and spend lots of time there.

We have so many new neighbors and slowly we're meeting them. I love when young families move into the neighborhood and remind me of 20 years ago when we made Casa Wags our home.

An almost full house.

When I find pictures I didn't take on my phone.

Us.

Political rallies.

Donald J Trump. I left this event feeling hopeful for the first time about our Democracy. I keep my politics close to my vest, but I cannot do that with what is at stake with this election. For those of you who say he is a horrible person, I ask you to really look at the kind of man Joe Biden is. How has he amassed the incredible wealth he has as a career politician? Is our Democracy protected by weaponizing the DOJ? I thought kangaroo courts only existed in Banana Republics. Hmmm do some research and I guarantee it will open your eyes. Why are we spending trillions of dollars fighting other country's wars and allowing unfettered access at our borders. Do you know that the crime rate in numerous central American countries is at record lows? They're sending all their criminals here. This should scare you. Why are we paying off student loans instead of addressing the real problem: the insane cost of higher education? My mom sacrificed to put me through college. I sacrificed to do the same for my children. That debt doesn't disappear into thin air. We will all be paying for it along with our double digit inflation. Do I think Donald Trump is a saint? No, he's a flawed man, but a brilliant leader. I will vote for the President who will keep this country safe, respected, wealthy, free. Joe Biden is not even running this country. Ask yourself who is? And sit with the real fact that Kamala, the hyena, will likely assume the presidency at some point if Biden is re-elected. Now that, that is terrifying

Pizza three ways for dinner with Jess: Chicken Ranch, Gyro and always Margherita. And Gus who is just waiting for us to leave the room because he'd like to try them all.

 

Moulin Rouge Sunday. I've never seen it so I'm especially looking forward to the show and time with Judy.

weekending

The longer I'm away from this space, the harder it is to come back. I think it's because I'm linear in nature and get easily overwhelmed with picking the story back up where I left off when where I left off was so many stories ago. This blog details the days of my life, and well, I don't like missing pieces.

The most noteworthy event this past weekend was UW-Madison graduation. Ted earned his Master of Accounting and Meryl graduated from the School of Journalism. At Ted's request, the weekend really was all about Meryl. He had all the fanfare last year when he graduated from the Business School. He was a perfect gentleman and did not want to steal a single lumen of Meryl's spotlight. I am proud of both of them. We'll be having a little celebration for Ted at a date yet to be determined.

We drove up early Friday morning to join Meryl's family for brunch at her place. It was our first time meeting her mother. I liked her the minute she greeted me with a hug. She was warm and witty and we had many good conversations and quite a few laughs. We are both tickled with their pairing. Her brother and sister-in-law who flew in from London for the occasion were just as welcoming. We already knew and loved her dad. It's funny, but I could tell that Ted was nervous for the parents to meet. That added to my nerves, but it was all for nothing because the day could not have gone any better. Even Ted agreed.

The J School graduation was more intimate than the whole stadium shebang. Meryl walked across the stage when her name was called and we could actually see her. I know she could hear us cowbells and all. A former TA and fellow graduate (PhD) spoke so highly of Meryl and the way she connects to people. All people. She prophesied that Meryl will be famous some day. It doesn't take much to convince me of that although I think she's just perfectly happy telling people's stories. Ordinary people.

The graduates arrived in London very early this morning. They will spend a few days there and then head to the Amalfi Coast for a few more. It is a last hurray before entering the "real" world. Meryl starts her job at month's end reporting for a Madison station and Ted is hoping to study for and pass all 4 CPA exams before he starts his job at PWC after Labor Day.

After a long stretch of days and nights of celebrating, they came home for a night before jet setting off to Europe. We sat around the island catching up before sending them off on more adventures. Roots and wings baby.

I had one of the nicest Mother's Days I can remember. It was chill. We extended a rather impromptu invite to my mother-in-law to join us for brunch. She accepted. Mike made his homemade hash browns and Lily surprised me with a delicious (and very looksy) Flourless Chocolate Cake on the coolest cake stand ever. I made Eggs Benedict and a salad topped with sautéed goat cheese that I'm still thinking about. We had a couple lemonade mimosas that I'm quite sure will be on repeat this summer. Think light and refreshing. And after out delicious brunch we retired to the patio on what was the loveliest of lovely days.

 

Sunday I didn't dwell on the fact that I'm unmothered. I miss my mom every single day, but I felt very blessed not beleaguered. There are just too many good things happening in my life right now that I'm choosing joy and happiness over melancholy or nostalgia. I'm shining a light on the little things that remind me of how lucky I am to be alive. There are always challenges, disappointments, burdens, but I'm shushing them right now. Sometimes that's easier said than done, but when the days are long and my daughter is home and the birds sing and the flowers reach for the sun, it's pretty easy.

Lily has big things going on too. She's amazing! She finished out the semester with all As. Right now she's in the thick of training for the Ironman. In fact, before I was even thinking of getting up, she biked 25 miles this morning. She's also working on her study abroad application. She hopes to be in Spain spring semester and she's already dreaming of all the places she'll go. Teddy's infected her with the travel bug for which going, doing, seeing is the only cure. It's a good ailment to have when you're approaching 20 and your whole life is in front of you. She starts her job at the end of this month. Until then, she's the Gus whisperer. As you can see...he's quite fine with that and Hazel... she's coming around.